Setting goals, accountability, and going after dreams at 33

33 Ice Cream Sammiches & #Goals

Inside: Putting goals out there into the world, and seeing the results!

I set a goal for myself around this time last year – to have my writing published on a website I didn’t own. Here on With Love, Becca I can write about Zenon: Girl of the 21st Century or hermit crabs, or Jonathan Taylor Thomas and there isn’t an editorial department giving me the side eye. That freedom is totally exhilarating! No rules, just right.

But there was an itch I really wanted to scratch. A “what do I want to be when I grow up” type itch. After journaling and writing long Facebook statuses and blogging my heart out, I wanted to join the ranks of professional writers. And that meant someone else looking at something I wrote and saying “Yes, I believe that should be interneted and you should be paid a nominal fee.”

I Think I Can, I Think I Can

So I started doubling down on my efforts to have my writing featured on one of the websites I loved and admired. I sent lots of late night emails and in turn, the nicely worded rejection letters rolled in at a pretty steady pace. It wasn’t them, it was me.

Fair enough.

So I wrote some more. And read some more. And edited and tweaked and tried to stop starting sentences with “and.” (Rome wasn’t built in a day).

The 5’10” Engine That Could

Then, in the past five weeks things started happening. They say there is no such thing as an overnight success, because the person who found success has been working A LOT of overnights to make it happen. Which is true. But it did feel like all a sudden something clicked. I started hearing yes.

Erma Bombeck’s Writer’s Workshop said yes to Tale of Elliptical Hill and How to Catch a Bat in Your House and Stay Married.

Shortly thereafter Sammiches & Psych Meds said yes, three times. To 8 Ways to Know You’re Ready to Move Your Toddler Into a Big Kid Bed, What the Spice Girls Taught Me About Parenting Toddlers, and 7 Stages of Preparing for House Guests When You Have Kids.

And then Her View From Home said yes to a new piece I’ve never posted on my own site. It’s a piece originally titled “I’m Still Selfish, and That’s Okay.” The editors changed it to “Deep Down, I Know I’m a Good Mom” because they are beautiful humans and good for my self esteem.

I just found out that another piece is being published on Motherly in early September.


Just Putting the Goals Out There

Goals are kind of like New Year’s Resolutions. If you tell someone that you are resolving to run a 5K this year then you are going to feel a little pressure to lace up your Nikes. That was part of the reason I wrote “What’s Wrong With Being (Mostly) Confident?” a couple months ago. It was a digital kick in the pants when I was feeling a bit discouraged. A way of putting it out there into the world that just because I heard a bunch of nos I shouldn’t stop pursuing this writing gig. I’m glad I did that.

So now that I’ve turned you all into my accountability group without your consent, I have another big goal on my list. Write a book.

The concept is “parenting yourself towards a fulfilling career.” Parenting humor, lessons we try to teach our kids, and how all of that relates back to career development concepts that help us figure out what we want to be when we grow up. Or what we want to be next when we grow up. It’s coming along and I’m pretty psyched about it. I hope someone else out there is too. Maybe even several people. Dream big dreams!

It’s My Birthday, I’ll Indulge If I Want To

So I know I went a little “dear diary” on you here. But it’s my birthday, so I gave myself a pass. I appreciate you sticking with me as I got all self-indulgent – you’re the best. Want to come over for cake? Rumor has it it’s going to be ice cream cake, the kind with the little chocolate crunchies.

Life is good.

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  1. Congratulations!!! Sorry I can’t make it for cake I will be celebrating with my sister who shares your birthday. Hope you have a great birthday you cake have my piece of cake, 🙂

    1. Happy Birthday to your sister! July 16 is a pretty killer day. I hope you had lots of delicious cake to celebrate. 🙂

  2. Happy birthday! And all of the congrats on all of your words being everywhere. You are absolutely one of the funniest ladies on the internet these days and The Tale of Elliptical Hill is my go-to ‘read this to laugh’ when I’m feeling stressed out. Thanks for that. Please mail me a piece of ice cream cake with crunchies.

    1. I owe you a gigantic piece of ice cream cake my friend. Connecting with the funniest lady in Colorado has been one of my favorite parts of this blogging adventure. 🙂

  3. Wow, Becca! Congratulations on the whole lot! But most especially about your book! Ijust published my first book and it really is amazing! I can’t wait to buy your book and promote it to all my friends! It’s going to be great! 💗

    1. Thank you, Kimberly! You’re the best! Can you send me the link to your book? I’d love to check it out.

  4. This is so inspiring, Becca. You write such beautiful and hilarious stories that should be published; I’m thrilled those “nos” have turned into the “yeses” you deserve 🙂 Congratulations! And I’m very much looking forward to reading your book; in fact, I’m holding you accountable.

    1. Thank you so much, Paula! The work you put on their on goals and time management has really helped me get to where I want to go. And I totally appreciate you holding me accountable. You’re a fantastic blogger bud! 🙂

  5. Congratulations on your published pieces–that’s so exciting! I share the same goal of getting my work out there but have been lagging and stalling on it. I’m going to use this post as inspiration to GO DO IT. Just do it, right? What’s the worst they can say—NO?? (*sobs in bathroom then eats entire cake*)

    Sounds like a great start to 33, and I really hope you did have 33 ice cream sandwiches.

    1. Do it! And yup, they might say no. I’m still very prepared to hear a lot more no even though I’m riding a high of yes right now. It comes with the territory. But thankfully there is cake, and comebacks. 🙂

      Super glad to have connected with you and looking forward to seeing where you go with your writing!

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